When blood is not thicker than water.

Have you ever heard of that saying within the family, “Blood is thicker than water”?
How often in families does that line fail? This line means nothing to me. My adoptive family, literally sticks to this saying. Being adopted, this doesn’t apply to me. But the funny thing is, it’s a two-way street with this line. So I’m going to say, this line is absolutely nonsense.

I realized, as I got older how much the word FAMILY, applies to anyone willing to treat you, and take you into their lives. Family doesn’t mean, just the same blood that runs through your veins. Family is whoever is willing to include you in their lives. Who’s willing to understand where you are in your life. What you have in common, so that getting through life is a little bit easier, together. Family are the friends you make. Family are the people who you meet, and become close to. Family isn’t just blood.

I often think about how sad I am, with those I’ve lost through the years. Whether it be we drifted, or we no longer had our lives aligned. But the thing with that is, you learn from those experiences. You learn that as much as they were a part of your family at one point, time, experience, and life itself finds a way to diminish what used to be. When one becomes too comfortable in their relationships, there’s no longer that light that kindles your relationships. and soars to greatness. It becomes stale. It becomes predictable. It all becomes boring, and eventually it falls apart. I’m not saying being comfortable is a bad thing. But, I am saying when one relies on having their relationships flourish through comfortability, it becomes repetitive.

I’m thankful for the relationships I’ve managed to have through the years. I don’t expect to keep my family small. I know that as time passes, as I get older, more people will come into my life. They will dance, they will drink, they will play a part in my life. I also know that, through time, I will have moments when letting go is important. When those people have given and taken from me, they will move-on and provide that definition of “Family” to someone else. It’s all a cycle, you see.


Define Family

Anyway, I need a snack..

“Family isn’t always blood. It’s the people who want you in theirs. The ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who LOVE YOU no matter what.”

  One thought on “When blood is not thicker than water.

  1. simplyburch
    March 12, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    I definitely believe family isn’t always blood. I’m thankful for those who have made the choice to stay in my life.

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  2. Kim Amy
    March 7, 2017 at 3:22 pm

    I have a very large blood family but also a close knit “family” of friends and loved ones. All are equally important to me. They are all family to me blood/water who cares, it’s love that matters.

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  3. thecoffeemom0617
    March 7, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    Personally, I never got that saying. Most of my family, are not related to me by blood. I have 6 step siblings and two wonderful step parents. They are my family. The extended family is all “step” as well, but would never say so. My siblings are my siblings, not “step”. So they are family even if not by blood.

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  4. March 7, 2017 at 4:13 am

    I definitely agree that family isn’t limited to blood relatives. I have several friends who I consider to be family, and I talk to them more than I do many of my “real” relatives!

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    • March 7, 2017 at 4:16 am

      I agree! And sometimes those not blood related to you are so much more like family than your real ones.


  5. mrsdoingmybest
    March 7, 2017 at 3:18 am

    Family redefined, especially in this day! They come in all types, some given and some chosen. Family through adoption can be even more special…chosen love :).

    Liked by 1 person

  6. rogerspartyof5
    March 6, 2017 at 8:22 pm

    There is so much truth to this. Family are the people who accept and embrace you for who you are, and who are there for you regardless of anything else going on. Thank you for the raw, honest post 🙂
    Caitlin @RogersPartyof5

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 6, 2017 at 8:40 pm

      Thank you for validating it! For reading! And its definitely something i grew up to experience than most.


  7. March 6, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    This post is absolutely correct. Family is not about blood relatives. It is a bond and commitment to each other. Unconditional love and support.

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 6, 2017 at 8:14 pm

      Man..ive met more good people in my life that are not blood related than my actual family..


  8. March 6, 2017 at 5:40 pm

    I do believe this, I have a huge family but I’m disconnected from many of them. I have gotten to the point if you want to be apart of my life and family then you need to make the same amount of effort. Thank you for sharing.

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 6, 2017 at 8:15 pm

      Thank you for reading! Its crazy, how much even the ones who are supposed to be close to you..are the ones most further from you.


  9. tkmom18
    March 6, 2017 at 5:28 pm

    This is very true….the definition of family is definitely versatile

    Liked by 1 person

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